Monday, March 31, 2014

The Gift of Giving...

A small gesture… something to let someone know you’re thinking of them. I have been reminded several times throughout the past year how significant a gesture can be. Simple things like a call, a text, an email or a gift from family or friends – they have the ability to make your day that much brighter.

Back in January of this year, I received an email from my mother in law saying that she had been thinking of me and was sending a surprise my way. She ended her email with one of my favorite Bible verses, Hebrews 11:1 “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” A couple of days later I opened the mailbox to find a package from The Giving Keys with my name on it. Inside was a delicate key bracelet with the word ‘Fearless’ etched onto its surface. The receipt noted that she had ordered the bracelet to have the word ‘Faith’ inscribed on it but instead they had accidentally sent a different word. I then realized that the lovely verse that my mother in law had included in the email was about faith because the bracelet she was sending was to represent the same message.  She offered to have it fixed but it occurred to me that ‘Fearless’ is actually a perfect word for me to wear during a season when I have found that I let my fears sneak up and get the best of me far too often. And if you think about it, to have faith is to be fearless…maybe it was packaged wrong for a reason…perhaps it was packaged right all along.

If you haven’t heard of The Giving Keys: They have a sort of pay it forward philosophy. They are an organization that employs those who are trying to transition out of homelessness. These people that they employ are the ones who work on the key engravings for bracelets, necklaces and other products. The keys each have one word on them ranging from courage to love to strength. And there’s even an option to put a custom word on the key if you have something specific in mind. The idea is that you wear the key and the message that it bears until you encounter someone who you think needs that message. You then give it to the next person who wears it until they feel someone else needs it more than they do… and so on.

It’s a pretty rad give-give win-win concept: The Giving Keys gives a homeless person employment, this person gains self-confidence, independence and an income while spending their days putting positive messages on keys, the keys are then sent out all over the country and are purchased by someone who either needs/wants the message for themselves or who knows someone who could use it, the key is worn and serves as a daily reminder of that message, and then one day the key holder encounters someone else who they feel needs that message and they give the key to them…

Having been on the receiving end of a Giving Key I can tell you that it was such a sweet surprise to receive that gift. And it makes it that much sweeter to have received something that represents and supports such a positive movement.

I’m looking forward to the day when I encounter the opportunity to give my key to someone else who may need it…who knows how far it may travel and who it may help along the way.



Read more about The Giving Keys here:


Tuesday, March 4, 2014

More than words...

We have all been through some trials, some pain or some loss in our lives – big or small. We all deal with them differently and we all work through them in our own ways. My mom passed an article along to me today written by Jason Gray that talks about grief, struggle and the way that we try to deal with each other’s anguish in those sometimes challenging moments when there are really no words to say.

The article talks about how people often feel the need to placate the person who is going through a dark time with “it’ll be okay” or “it’s all for the best” type of responses and feedback. These are not wrong things to say and they come from a place of good intention. That being said I recall a conversation that I had a while ago about this very topic. We were discussing how frustrating it is to be that person in a dark place and how very equally frustrating it must feel to be the people who are trying to understand and support that person.

We discussed how those positive and kind words that so quickly and easily flow from people’s mouths in times of despondency sometimes end up doing more harm than good after a while. If you’re that person who’s been through hell and who feels like no one understands – those words may not lift you up – but instead they may push you further down. In these situations, I think that some people feel the quick and kind words only reinforce how little others understand what they are going through. Sadly, I think that’s how many people slip into their darkness even further. Afraid to bring it up or to let it dwell on the surface because it makes others uncomfortable or upset that they can’t help them get through it faster or help them see the silver lining.

I have always tried to focus my writing on this site about great opportunities to help others through their struggles, to be that reason that someone gets through – and I maintain that intention. But I think it’s important to recognize that there are many ways to help someone through a tough time. I believe that some people absolutely benefit from words of encouragement, positive feedback and good advice coming from others. These people may be encouraged by the optimistic support and the hopeful things that others say to them throughout their struggle.

But I think articles like this also shed light on an important alternative to consider: not everyone is the same and some people may need something entirely different to get them through their dark time. These people may not need you to tell them how to fix the problem, they may not need an “it will all be okay”…maybe these people just need you to sit with them in their sadness or anger for a while – to let them know that they aren’t alone and that you’ll be there regardless.

The article is fairly brief and worth the read: http://www.rabbitroom.com/2014/03/not-right-now/

The song that goes hand in hand with it is merits a listen as well. I’ll link the video below but in case it stops being accessible – the lyrics are there too. 


You could see the smoke from a mile away
And trouble always draws a crowd
They want to tell me that it’ll be okay
But that’s not what I need right now
Not while my house is burning down


I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now


Tell me if the hope that you know is true
Ever feels like a lie even from a friend
When their words are salt in an open wound
And they just can’t seem to understand
That you haven’t even stopped the bleeding yet


I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now


Don’t tell me when I’m grieving
That this happened for a reason
Maybe one day we’ll talk about the dreams that had to die
For new ones to come alive
But not right now


I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now


While I wait for the smoke to clear
You don’t even have to speak
Just sit with me in the ashes here
And together we can pray for peace
To the one acquainted with our grief


I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now

(Jason Gray - Album: Love Will Have the Final Word) 




Monday, January 27, 2014

Run for a reason...


Let me start with this: I hate running. I will probably never be one of those people who discovers a passion or love of strapping on a pair of sneakers and hitting the road to run for hours.
That being said, I do run from time to time and I have found that I am more motivated to do it when I have a good reason to do it (beyond the obvious good reasons: i.e. health and/or training for a zombie apocalypse).
In April I will be running in Pat’s Run – 4.2 miles and an opportunity to raise funds for the Pat Tillman Foundation. Honestly, before today I had never looked into this foundation. But I did some research and I am a big fan of a foundation that encourages higher education and the people who serve our country. You can learn a bit more about it here http://pattillmanfoundation.org/who-we-are.
If you’re interested in donating to this foundation and my upcoming run – head on over to my fundraising page http://www.crowdrise.com/Elyse2014 Your donation will support the Tillman Military Scholars who are carrying on Pat's legacy of service to others.
If you can’t donate right now – no worries! Comments/Emails/Notes of encouragement are always welcome too. J
I still hate running…but I love raising funds and awareness for a good cause.
Full of Reason – Running for a Reason.

Love,
Elyse

Thursday, January 16, 2014

The Strength of Love...



It’s been awhile since I have written anything on either of my blogs. I found that every time that I sat down to write that only negative thoughts and words hit the page. This past year seemed to be full of new challenges and obstacles. And while it has helped to write down my thoughts about all of them, I am not yet ready to write publicly and candidly about them. I may never find that voice but I am ready to write again.
Here is what you should know: After a recent loss, I lost sight of my positive attitude. I have always prided myself in finding the silver lining and walking away from negative situations having learned some sort of life lesson. I’m not really sure that I have identified any profound silver lining or life lesson yet but I have experienced something worth writing about: the strength of love.
My husband – who has been known to be a bit of a pessimist and worrier between the two of us...has been the optimist and positive one among the two of us lately. There have been some dark days for me – we all have them. On those days I’m not particularly pleasant, I’m less than sweet and sometimes I don’t even want to be around myself. He could let me wallow in it and just avoid dealing with me. Most people would probably agree that he would be completely justified if he wanted to mirror my foul attitude that day and embrace the bad mood as his own.
But instead he’s been carrying me through each of those days. His words and his positivity more than anyone else’s have gotten me through all of it. A negative comment, a snarky remark – he could have sent them right back at me. But he’s chosen to counter my negativity with goodness.  I’ve never needed him as much as I have this past year and it’s as if he knows exactly when I need him the most. Everyone jokes about for better or for worse when people say their wedding vows but I’m realizing each day that it’s the most important part of the promises that we made. My husband has seen me at my worst and my lowest and yet continues to love me even when I have no love for myself.  
When I have felt low or have been in a bad mood I have found that my prayers are filled with requests for strength to get me through those days. And it’s far too easy to grow impatient with God when we think that he isn’t answering our prayers. How foolish I feel now that I realize that God has been providing strength the whole time… to my husband…to carry both of us. I’m so thankful that God has blessed my life with a husband always willing to love a wife whose attitude and words are sometimes unlovely.
The strength of negativity can be overwhelming but the strength of love is endless.
…and all you need is love.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Full of Dreams...

I sometimes write letters on my blogs to my husband, my family and others. Because I have had so many random thoughts circling my brain that I want to remember and because I no longer keep a personal journal, today’s letter is addressed to me… so that I have a written reminder of these contemplations:

Dear Elyse,
Embrace a season of change but never lose sight of the road traveled along the way. Those bumps and ditches that seem to slow you down, to dishearten you, that force you to struggle harder…they are more than just hurdles; they are reminders that you are alive. Do not allow them to pull your focus, your positivity or faith. Instead wear the dirt and scars from that bumpy road with pride…they are evidence of how far you’ve come.  
It is beautiful to have goals and hopes…it is okay to focus on these things, to strive for them, to dream of them and to pursue them with fervor. So often goals seem to be these amazing gifts that are wrapped tightly in obstacles, challenges and setbacks…and that is why we frequently leave our dreams untouched. Big or small…they are yours…embrace them, share them and let them grow as you grow.
On my first day at a job, the trainer said to me, “Don’t be afraid. There’s nothing you can do in there that we can’t undo, fix or figure out…you’re going to do great.”
I like to think that God would offer similar advice as we navigate our lives.
Keep that in mind.
 
Love,
Elyse

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Charity Miles...


I’ve been on a diet this week (Thanksgiving Food Hangover) and that means that I’ve been working out.
Today I happened to notice mention of an app called Charity Miles. Naturally, the title intrigued me and I began to hunt down said app.

Charity Miles is an app that tracks your outdoor activities (i.e. running, walking or biking) and donates money to charity per mile that you complete. How awesome is that?!
They have a list of charities that you choose from before you start your workout, once your charity is selected you start your workout (must be outside, no treadmills etc because it uses gps) and it starts tracking your miles.

I tested it out on my lunch break today - I ran for Stand Up to Cancer.
25 cents per mile for walkers and runners

10 cents per mile for bike riders
A little can go a long way…and you’re already going to work out today right? So why not do some good for someone else while you are doing good for yourself?

According to their website, the Charity Miles challenge launched June 2012 and will end May 31, 2013...so get going!

*I believe it’s only available for Androids and iPhones right now – and you have to have a FaceBook account to use it because it links through there. It looks like enough people have complained about the FaceBook aspect in their reviews that this may change sometime in the future.
Full of Reason…to work out while helping charities.

Win Win.
 
Love,
Elyse

 

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Wrapped in Love...

Giving gifts is absolutely one of my favorite parts of Christmas. I especially love giving gifts that give back to others. Unfortunately, it’s not likely that I will do all of my shopping on these websites and it’s not likely that you will either.

But…I’ve got great news! Not only can you purchase gifts for those that you love but you can show love to orphaned and impoverished children all over the world through Love Without Boundaries at the same time.

If you’re planning on doing some shopping on Amazon.com, first go to www.lovewithoutboundaries.com and scroll down until you see the Amazon logo on the bottom left of the page. Click the logo to enter Amazon's website, do your shopping, and Love Without Boundaries will get a minimum of 4% cash back on all of your Amazon purchases to help children in need. 
Win – Win.
Gift giving wrapped in Love.
 
Love,
Elyse